HOW TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND
The Bible says in Titus 2:3, 4: “The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things--that they admonish (or teach) the younger women to love their husbands...” (NKJV).
Hmmm, I wondered, when that verse leapt out at me one day. What are some concrete ways to "love your husband"? Thoughts started pouring into my heart, and I grabbed a pen and jotted them down. They became the basis for my message for women entitled "How to Love Your Husband." They're all based on scriptures, and I believe the Lord birthed these truths in my heart.
I've crisscrossed the nation teaching these truths to women.
I'd like to share a streamlined version of them, below. May they take root in your heart, and may you find new ways to love your husband.
1. RESPECT HIM. "And the wife must see to it that she deeply respects her husband--obeying, praising, and honoring him" (Ephesians 5:33, LB). Respect means, “to consider worthy of high regard.”
Quick Tip: Don't "talk down" to him or make fun of him, especially in public.
2. BE HIS CHEERLEADER! "And the Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him" (Genesis 2:18, NIV).
Quick Tip: Encourage and compliment him.
3. SUBMIT TO HIM AS YOUR HEAD. "Wives, fit in with your husbands' plans" (I Peter 3:1, LB). True biblical submission, according to the Greek, means, "to graciously cooperate with the headship of your home."
Quick Tip: Learn to be assertive without being threatening.
4. OVERLOOK HIS FAULTS AND CONCENTRATE ON HIS PLUS POINTS. "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8, NKJV).
Quick Tip: Remind yourself of his good points continually and try not to concentrate on his shortcomings.
5. RESPOND TO HIS SEXUAL NEEDS. "Because of the temptation of immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise, the wife to her own husband. For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. Do not refuse one another..." (I Corinthians 7:2-5, RSV).
Quick Tip: Be knowledgeable about sexuality, which God created. Read the two classics, The Act of Marriage by Tim LaHaye and Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat. Above all, ask the Lord to help you in this area.
6. DON'T LOOK TO HIM FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. "...in thy presence is fullness of joy" (Psalm 16:11, KJV). Always remember, lasting happiness comes only from the Lord, not a man.
Quick Tip: Look to the Lord for your joy and encouragement, not your husband.
What are some ways you've done these things for or to your husband: respect him, cheer him, submit to him, overlook his faults and concentrate on his plus points, respond to his sexual needs, and not look to him for your happiness? Any examples?