Monday, May 19, 2008


Kristy, here. Written on 9/10/05:


Milton and I celebrated our anniversary on August 14. That night, we went to Sonic Burger and ate onion rings dipped in ketchup, a hamburger (me), a foot-long dog (him), and milkshakes. It was so romantic, sitting there on the picnic tables with waiters whizzing by on roller skates (we got out of the car because it was so hot). Heehee.

We would've gone somewhere fancy, but we'd had two week-long trips to Denver this summer where we'd eaten in wonderful restaurants plus we had upcoming reservations for a two-night stay at The Florida House Inn B&B on Amelia Island, so we were satisfied with Sonic.

Funny thing is, that afternoon he asked me where I'd like to go to eat. I thought Sonic Burger. I said where do you want to go? He said Sonic Burger. I said I was thinking the same thing. So that's where we ended up.

Then we went to the beach and walked hand in hand on the seashore, the surfers in the water trying to catch a wave and the fishermen on the pier trying to catch a fish.

It's nice when you don't have to impress each other anymore. Love for a lifetime is a comforting love and a comfortable love. Oh, there are still sparks. I encourage couples to revisit the sizzle, meaning keeping sparks alive in your marriage.

That's what Milton and I teach in our Joy in Marriage seminars. But it's great having a spouse who can almost read your thoughts.

Now, if we just won't start looking like each other!! They say that's what happens to couples. Wonder what I'll look like with black hair and him with red? :)


Milton, here:

I went back to Kristy's past posts and read. Oh, how this woman oozes love. She turned me into a romantic long ago. How very blessed I am to share life with one so dear and special.

There were so many revealing posts that reflect her love, my love, and our marriage. She has been transparent in her writings about our lives and God's goodness.

The post from 9/10/05 tells part of our love story. It is a love story that grows. I wanted to shared it again for her.

By the way, I have taken her to nice, wonderful resturants all over America. We both wanted something simple that night. It was fun!

How is Kristy?

Kristy rested all day on Sunday. Thankfully the attacks against her mind were not as severe as Friday and Saturday. We continue to trust in One who is more than able to meet every need.

God is good.


At 9:00 AM, Anonymous Carrie Turansky said...

Dear Milton and Kristy,

As authors we've heard many speakers discuss the author's "voice," which means their unique style of writing and way of telling a story. I can "hear" Kristy's "voice" in the anniversary story she shared today. She takes such delight in describing her relationship with you, Milton. I remember the way she dedicated many of her books to her hero husband. : )

Kristy's commitment to her marriage and her desire to encourage all couples to treasure each other has made a wonderful impact on so many...through her fiction, and now through sharing her true love story with us. Thanks for sharing these wonderful memories.

We continue to pray for you both many times each day, asking God to pour out His comfort, grace, and strength.

Love and prayers from NJ,

At 9:28 AM, Blogger Margo Carmichael said...

Well, you're both good-lookin', so looking like each other wouldn't be that bad. I just can't see you with a moustache, Kristy~

At 9:36 AM, Blogger Jennifer said...

This post made me cry. I miss mom SO much. While she's still here, she's also gone...

I want to wake up from this nightmare and have my mom back.

We should planning our annual summer vacation together not waiting for a funeral. I never would have dreamed last summer was our last one together, we were just getting going...

Oh man this hurts...

At 10:14 AM, Blogger Mary Connealy said...

Thank you for posting something in Kristy's words.

At 10:15 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jennifer, Julie and Milton,

I am praying for Kristy and for the three of you as you continue to pray and love her. As I read the blogs I had one thought today. How very fortunate you have these blogs to remember her "voice" and the wonderful love she has for God and her family.

So many people die without ever telling the people they love the most how they feel. You will always have these lovely words to re-read, pictures to hold dear and the knowledge that one day you will all be together again in Heaven.

Ever since Kristy's illness began, I read this blog daily. I laugh and I cry. I pray for her and your family daily.

Beth Szabo - FCRW

At 10:32 AM, Blogger Kathy Collard Miller said...

For those of us who care for people with some kind of brain disease (my mother-in-law has dementia with paranoia, hallucinations, and delusions), I understand the challenges brain dysfunction brings. It's very frustrating. Thank you for your example of patience and understanding. Sometimes the "real" Kristy isn't there. We can rejoice when she's with you.

Jennifer, my heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing.

At 11:20 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's no wonder Kristy likes writing inspirational romances; she's living one. So many people never know the incredible joy which results from being at a place like Sonic with the person they love who loves them.

You're all in my prayers.

At 11:48 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have seen with my own eyes through the years how that Milton and Kristy have lived a very real love story. After I graduated from Southeastern they opened up their home in Bartow for me to live with them while I became established in my new career of teaching in public school. What, I am sure, they thought would be only a couple of months went on for many months. Not one time in all of those months of living with them did I ever hear a cross word or any other type of argument. What a blessing for me to observe such respect. This is just one example of Kristy's mentoring over the years and being apart of our family.
FYI --- Kristy has a novella out now entitled Florida Weddings that I am sure you would enjoy.

At 1:37 PM, Blogger Pam Meyers said...

Jennifer, my heart cries for you. I lost my mom at the age of 38 and it was so hard. She'd been sick for five years and we always thought we'd have one more day. Then she suddenly died. Unlike you, my mom wouldn't talk about her faith in God, whatever that was. She told me it was private. Although I saw a softening during her last months, I never heard her say she'd accepted Christ as her Lord and Savior.

So cherish these days, cherish your memories and rejoice that you and your mom will one day be reunited in the Lord's presence.

I know this may sound like a pat answer, but I don't mean it that way. God says His thoughts are not our thoughts nor His ways our ways. All He asks us to do is trust Him.

At 2:12 PM, Blogger Karen Eve said...

My heart goes out to all of you. I lost my dad when I was 19 and my mom when I was 27. Both died young and suddenly, and there was no chance to say goodbye. Of course, they didn't suffer either. I lost a spouse to divorce when I was 22, that was also like grieving a death.
I'm still believing and praying for a miracle for Kristy. I have seen too many miracles to rule that out. Your family's story just proves one more time that we should approach each day as if it were our last - not in a morbid way of course, but in a way that ensures that we always value those around us. May the peace of God that passes understanding continue to surround you all.

At 3:15 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Milton and Kristy,

My husband and I celebrated our first anniversary at Sonic Burger 9 years ago. :) I pray that our marriage will be a shining testimony to our Lord as yours has been. Thank you for your posts and your faithfulness. Still praying.

Kristi in CA

At 5:21 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

To Jennifer and Julie, please know that every time we have prayed for mom and dad we have prayed for you too. You have spent your life sharing them with so many and now, just one time you want to be incredibly selfish. Just one more trip, one more holiday...just one more time, the way it used to be. From someone who has now endured the loss of both, please feel our heart felt prayers of love and support. Don't lose Faith, hang on to hope and never stop the love!!

I found the greatest healing in the opportunity to say Thank You! Thank you mom for life, love and direction. Thank you for the seeds sown that will not bud forth for years to come. But one day they will bloom and we will know who planted the seed. It just "hurts so bad when you love so good!"

Okay, to close with a comparison, Edith and Archie...NO, Solomon and the Shulamite...MAYBE!!

Romance and a hot date to the Chapel...WOW! Dr. Miller would be proud!

You are loved!!!!

At 6:30 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Lord Jesus, I thank you for Kristy and Milton's witness of your amazing love and grace available, in full, to those who say yes to you. You are the Lover or our Souls. You are the Healer and Provider. You are the Light in this ever present fallen, dark world. You are the One who shines forth from this marriage and family. I lift them up to you and ask for your Spirit to fall afresh upon each person touched by this life you created for such a time as this. May your joy continue to flow from their hearts. May your peace that surpasses all understanding settle any anxious thoughts. Love Jesus' name, amen.

At 8:38 AM, Anonymous Marie said...

Kristy and pastor Dykes you are true examples of how we should love,trust and cling to Jesus.You have taught me so many things.What true church family is,two how to walk in obiedence of the Lord.I guess most of all that love conquers all.When I read the scripture I can do all things through Christ whom strenghthens me I immediately think of you two.I love you two and miss you with every thing in me.
Marie B.


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