Friday, October 03, 2008


Milton, here for Kristy:

There is a sexual overkill in the land, but a sexual underplay in too many saintly homes. The goodness of God does not have to be robbed by a continual drip of the dregs of the social underworld. God has always intended better. Our sexual appetites  do not have to be satisfied by the enemies' seductive fare.

I know you are reading this even though the comment screen is a little quiet.  Maybe there is uncertainty of what to comment or say or maybe most are just quietly meditating. Really,  the comments all along this journey have been a huge support to me, though a small percentage of the greater interest and following of Kristy's blog. 

Thank you for taking the time to read and share this blog with others. Your participation makes this blog a worthy venture.

It would be easier to go a different direction in these writings as I write without a partner, lover, supporter, and confidant. I feel as a single person and pastor a vulnerability in what I have written and will write, yet, I know God will help me and direct my thoughts. 

So still, let's talk about Sex and the Saints:

What could be more wonderful than a man and a woman saving themselves for the ecstasy, joy, and fulfillment of the marriage bed?

What could be more precious than the gift of sexual enjoyment lived out with sacred commitment of faithfulness until death they part?

What could be more fruitful than children watching mom and dad live a loving life of romance and sweet love?

What could be more healthy, blessed, and successful than staying the course with forgiveness and grace through good times and bad times?

What could mean more to the Church, America, and the world than families with sexual restraint, sexual discipline, and  sexual fulfillment with a higher governance than lustful indulgence?

God's Word, His plan, and His priorities bring balance to an imbalanced, sexually upside down world.


Kristy, here according to what Milton thinks she would write:

Milton, you're being too wordy, too preachy.

Listen saints, just reach out to your mate's hand, look lovingly into each others eyes and forgive any wrongs, give a big kiss, and ease to a secret place.

It is fireworks.
It is fun.

Goodnight, sweetheart.


At 8:29 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Milton, if I may be honest, I think that we all may be doing better off than you think in this department. And I would rather hear about other things from you.

At 8:45 AM, Blogger Missy said...

Pastor Milton, I appreciate this "series" you are doing. We are currently studying the "Fireproof Your Marriage" study at church and this goes hand-in-hand with that. And honestly, I stumbled upon Kristy's blog initially because Of the title - Christian Love Stories. My marriage is great - but not perfect. Your insights are so profound to me and are making a difference in my marriage.

I have sexual abuse in my past and I have allowed that to haunt my future in my marriage bed and that isn't fair to my husband. Your insights help me.

Thanks for sharing and I don't comment often, but I read every day and appreciate your willingness to share your journey with us.


At 8:49 AM, Anonymous milton dykes said...

To the previous comment:

I am thrilled that you would like to hear something from me and grateful that you are doing well in this Sex for the Saints department. However, the stats don't measure up to show that most saints are doing as well as you might think.

There is a brokenness in the land and the Church. Most couples today are living together before marriage even in the church, perversion is pervasive, sexual identity is confused, and the saints are doing no better in the faithfulness department than the sinners.

Just pray with me that God will guide my thoughts and writings. I want to glorify Him and honor Kristy's passion to share romance and our Christian love story. Go back and read her past blogs. You might be amazed. She was very transparent and forthright, sometimes more than I might would have preferred. She was very pure and very passionate about this important dimension of life.

Nevertheless, I will move on to other topics of my heart shortly. There is so much to write about in this journey, and we haven't gotten to Barney's cousin yet.

I haven't forgotten small town America. The road has just made a brief turn to some different scenery.

Thanks for you post.


At 9:19 AM, Blogger Anna Dynowski said...

Milton, I am a Christian woman married to a Christian man for 24 years. I believe I can say with a quiet confidence: none of us have arrived, we can all use more insight and suggestions to make an already great marriage into a far better one. I am grateful for your ministry here on this blog.

Keep on writing and preaching what the Holy Spirit has placed on your heart. After all, our God knows what His children are in need of hearing and when they should hear it. Thank you for being obedient in the midst of your pain.

God Bless!
Love & Prayers,

At 9:42 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

With respect to the first commenter, I would say that most of us are NOT doing great in this area. It is so refreshing and encouraging to find someone who is willing to discuss things that some are afraid to talk about. God is definitely using this series of posts in my life, and I'm sure in the lives of others.

Milton, please keep on! I'm reading daily.

At 9:46 AM, Blogger B. J. Brooks said...

Keep on writing Milton. None of us are too old to learn something new from God's word. I'm sure Song of Solomon never would have made it into the Bible, as we know it, if God hadn't wanted us to pay attention to that aspect of our lives.

Sex in marriage is beautiful and too many young people try to have that beauty before marriage and it seldom works our right.

Many Blessings
B.J. Brooks

At 11:31 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have enjoyed this blog for the last year as I read your wife's heart and now your heart. If this is what is on your heart, then follow that leading. As a married woman with a wonderful husband, I have to say that the physical relationship that only the two of us can share is a sacred bond but my marriage has seen some major "earthquakes" as an undiagnosed physical condition prevented the physical union of two people who loved deeply. I feel that the area of physical limitations and emotional limitations in the marriage bed has not been dealt with in the church to the extent that it should. God wants healing in EVERY area of our lives -- I just pray that the church will see this area as broken and needing God's healing touch.

At 11:35 AM, Blogger Patricia W. said...

Pastor Milton, I started reading this blog two years ago. I have been blessed by the posts from Kristy and you. I appreciate that you took up the mantle to continue this blog and pray you continue to do so, just as God gives it to you, until you believe your purpose here is fulfilled.

And I agree that this subject is one that warrants attention and discussion. I've been reading and learning quietly, as I suspect many others are also.

At 12:38 PM, Blogger Kim said...

I haven't commented in a while, but I still read daily. This topic is one that needs to be addressed. If, as a Christian and someone who has been raised in church, you only hear the negative side of this subject, you find yourself struggling once you say "I Do."

I've been married 19 years, and sometimes things are still a struggle. I appreciate the teaching and the affirmation that this is something that God blessed within the marriage and it is to be enjoyed not endured.

You teach as the Lord leads, because you are reaching a lot of folks.


At 4:01 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Due to the illness of my spouse, we have many challenges in this area. While painful to read some of your suggestions which are not possible for us, I'm still thankful for the truth shared.

May God bless you in this season of aloneness.


At 4:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Let me add that fireworks do not have to stop after an infidelity. Many, many years ago in an impulsive, ungodly mistake, my husband strayed. If anyone had told me I'd be around thirty years later I would've laughed them out of my sight.

God forgives us. Can we not forgive each other, even in the most hurtful of circumstances? I'm living proof, Pastor Milton, that love lives on, and a marriage can be saved. Even the fireworks.

At 5:49 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


I am a pastor as well and I am absolutely thrilled that you are writing posts on this topic. You are right, people are living in brokenness when it comes to this. Homes are falling apart and although not the only one, this is one of the major factors. Too often church leaders are afraid to address it because of the religious spirit that has so infiltrated the church. We need those who will preach and teach on everything God's word has to say and certainly there are many, many instructions in God's Word about a good marital sex life. Thank you for bringing this important topic up. I'm glad someone has the courage to do it.

At 10:29 PM, Blogger Eileen said...

Been out of town and this is the first blog I checked. Preach on Pastor. Almost broke my heart when my daughter moved out and "moved in"....

Praying in San Antonio.

At 7:05 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


I want you to know that you are a true blessing to me. This subject is something that I really needed. I am trying to be more "willing" with my husband of 29 years. Some times life is so hectic and busy, that is the last thing on a womans mind. Hearing you, through these words, is helping me to understand that I need to STOP, and give some romance to my man. Thank you for speaking Godly truths.

I think that God is expanding your borders!!


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