THOUGHTFUL WORDS FROM JENNIFER
Jennifer called this evening and read the following which she was going to make as a comment to the last post. I felt it should be read by everyone. Here are some loving words from a very special daughter and lady.
Here are Jennifer's words:
This is Jennifer, Milton and Kristy's youngest daughter. This whole story is an amazing thing. You have got to know that my Dad would never do anything to hurt us. This is an amazing story that truly reflects God's love.
Some will say it's too soon. But what does time matter? One year from now we will all still love and miss my mom. We aren't going to forget her now or in the future.
Love that comes from God is pure and true and when you find that, why not embace it? Love is a good thing. Love doesn't hurt. God knows our needs, He knows what we can handle.
As for comparing my Mom, why would any of us do that? There was only one Kristy. We are all unique and with our own talents. This person God has brought into my Dad's life is very special too and a wonderful blessing, you will soon see as the story unfolds!
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Tomorrow another page turns in this amazing love story.
posted by Kristy Dykes @ 9:23 PM
12 comments
12 Comments:
Milton - I found YOUR words back in early November and was ever so moved. I read almost every entry, linked you to my blog, told so many people about you...and cried to my mom about your love.
I lost my Dad in Feb 94...and just cried for your daughters and the love you lost when your Kristy was born into eternal life.
As I pray for the desires of my heart (to marry that prince He has made for me) - I have thought about you so much these past few weeks - the courage, the hope, the strength, the want, and the peace to love what is coming your way - knowing He loves you so.
I have never commented...but I watch you and your amazing journey eachday. Here I sit 32, crying at my kitchen table SO happy He (cause only He and Kristy) could make it happen for you and your family.
Pretty amazing when you think just how much God must believe in you to love Kristy and another only like you can.
You give this "lady in waiting" hope...thank you! k8
Thank you, dear Jennifer, for sharing your perspective. I hope you are heartened by the many, many people who sincerely care for you and your family.
Milton, I'm wondering why you simply did not respond to the concerned posts yourself? Why did you allow Jennifer to be the one to address the concerns that people who clearly care for you have expressed?
As far as your desclaimer that you are not being coy or sly...perhaps thou protesteth too much?
Taking responsibility....and not playing "poor little ol' me" is the work of an adult.
I really hope you will consider some professional grief counseling.
Still a friend
Thank you for all the comments and genuine concern. I have written a new post for tomorrow that will help address all the concerns of today's comments.
I assure you that Jennifer's post was not written because I was afraid and needed to hide behind a daughter's skirt. Both of my daughters wanted to comment.
Falling in love is fun. Another page turns tomorrow.
I must retrace my steps and ask for forgiveness if my comments earlier (2:45) hurt you. That was not my intent.
I appreciate Jennifer's note in defense of this new relationship, but still hope that you will take it slow. Grief is still a work in progress.
Many blessings...
Milton, forgive us if we all seem a bit too opinionated, but we have followed the details of your life for so long,it's as if we are in your life. Jennifer your comments are lovely and I believe you will not try to compare another to your mom. But, many will and she must be willing to undergo the scrutiny. All God's people are not charming! Milton, please at least read the post left on your original post at 9:56. That is actually alarming. Be blessed.
Thanks for sharing your feelings, Jennifer. Personally, I'm happy your dad is moving forward. As I said in a previous comment, it was GOD who decided that it was not good for a man to be alone, and I don't believe there is any kind of time-frame that must be met before loving someone else, after losing a spouse.
Yes, there are stages of grief, but when you hear your spouse is dying, I have to believe that Stage One (denial) begins immediately.
As someone commented in a previous post, it's easy for some to sit back and pass judgment(especially those who hide behind an "Anonoymous" veil), but we aren't in Milton's shoes. We don't know the relationship he shared with Kristy, nor are we privy to intimate conversations they shared before her passing. It's OK to lovingly caution a friend, but to continue harping, without having full knowledge of what has occurred, is not helping.
Some of us have always posted anonymously. I know I have. I left encouraging words often that way. So, don't think it's necessarily that we are "chicken."
As I was reading Dayle's comment, it occured to me that the first Christian romance I read (by a modern author) was Love Comes Softly. I love that book mostly because God met great needs in His time and His way.
Praise His Name!
I don't think you were trying to hide behind your daughters -- I think it shows how close you all truly are...and that this is what Kristy would've wanted, too.
I promise, reading Jennifer's words made a "whoosh" feeling come out of me, of relief and excitement. I am so elated for you, that you have the love of your family behind you. I cannot wait to read more.
To you and yours,
Heather
"it's easy for some to sit back and pass judgment(especially those who hide behind an "Anonoymous" veil)"
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Dale, the reason many of us post Anonymously is because we are not registered at blogger. No veil at all. I'm surprised by the insinuation, but understand how you might leap to that conclusion.
"Passing judgment" is a little strong IMHO. I would call it "loving concern". Words sometimes limit us. Thanks for extending grace to each poster. It makes this shared conversation all the sweeter.
These mean comments are not out of concern. Kristy and Milton and their family are beautiful people. This blog has been an inspiration to many, many people. If you know Milton's life, you know he is full of integrity. If you don't like this blog, please read something else. These comments are bothering me. Please don't post negative comments anymore. Their daughters have been mentioned numerous times in these comments- if you cared about them like you've tried to insinuate, you would know that these comments are hurting them. Would Kristy appreciate these negative comments that have been left? Thank you for keeping this family in your prayers, just keep the negative comments to yourself.
Thank you Jennifer for your input. I know that you are all moving through this time as a family. God always has a plan. Praying for your family.
Blessings,
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