Sunday, December 14, 2008


So many wonderful things have been happening in my life that go back to the incredible selfless or unselfish love that Kristy had for me. I will re-post some of her writings later today or tomorrow to set the back story for what I am about to share with you.

I am writing this very late Saturday night after a very busy weekend and it is still only Saturday evening. It is good that I am not preaching Sunday as we are having our Christmas program. I feel very physically spent, but at the same time life is exhilarating. 

It may seem that I am writing in circles and not making any sense at all, but Kristy told me that this would happen. She told me that God had someone for me. She told others who the person was. I don't mean to veil what is happening, but this story just needs to unfold in the right way. 

You may recall that I asked you to be patient with me and now you can possibly have some understanding why. It is hard to write about another love without setting some background to make it have a little sense--especially this close to Kristy's passing. I will always love Kristy, but Kristy loved me and pushed me to move forward in life. She never waited long to do anything. She never procrastinated about anything and she certainly didn't wait to push me into God's faithful plans for my life without her.

Yes, I have another love. I finally said it, but you will have to bear with me to let me write this as best as I can. Kristy told me this would happen and she even told others who it would be. She didn't tell me who or how or when, but she told me it would happen and that it would happen soon. I would not and could not bear to hear it when she briefly talked to me about it. 

You will have to wait to read more. I cannot write more tonight. This is so amazing.


At 4:39 PM, Anonymous Gayle said...

Milton, I am thrilled for you, and I know that those who know you (and knew Kristy) are thrilled even more. It sounds like a God thing, and I can't wait to hear whatever you choose to share.


At 5:29 PM, Blogger Kate said...

Dear Milton,

As I said yesterday--Godspeed.

However, perhaps you are more transparent than you think. ;-)
I'm sure your regular readers are not too surprised at your "news".


Ed and Kate.

At 6:42 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am happy for you!You truely deserve to be completely happy but You are so wrong for leaving us hanging like that.Just kidding.God Bless.

At 6:44 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Milton, I hope you've shared your heart with your daughters first and foremost. They are going to need TLC.

May God guide your footsteps and your heart! Bless you.

At 7:17 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Milton, I am sure you have shared your heart with your daughters, but it doesn't mean that it won't be difficult for them. Kristy has been gone for a while, but this is your first holiday without her. We will pray for you, your girls and the grands.

At 7:32 PM, Blogger Robin Bayne said...


At 7:38 PM, Blogger Victoria Bylin said...

Dear Milton,
My dad passed away on Feb. 1, 1997. He and my mom were married for 42 years and had a great marriage. My mom grieved like you've done for Kristy. She also started going to a new church where she met a man her age, a widower who knew how she felt.

I'll never forget a call I got in September of that year. "Vicki," she said, "I think I've done something stupid."

"What is it, Mom?"

"Well, I asked George if he'd take me to the diabetes seminar at church."

I'm thinking hmmmm, but I say, "That sounds nice."

"Well," she says, "I asked him if we could go to the House of Pancakes first." Long pause for both us, then my mom says, "Is that a date?"

It sure was. They've been married ten years now and my brother and I thank God every day that the Lord blessed my mom with a second love. My second book is dedicated to them. It says, "To Mom and George, for having the courage to love twice."

One thing I know for sure, my Dad's smiling down from heaven.

At 8:14 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know you have been through a horrible time and I am glad that you can and will find love again. I just pray that you really think about how your daughters and grands will feel. I know there is no time-table for these things and you should go on, but it might be more difficult for your daughters to see someone else at your side so soon after losing their mother, especially at this time of the year.

I would want my mom or dad to love again, but I know I'd want to get through all the 'firsts", firtst. The first Christmas, the first Easter etc...

It hasn't been but a few short months; please do not think I am judging or finding fault, I am not. I am just concerned.

God bless you and guide at this critical time .

At 8:36 PM, Anonymous milton dykes said...

Yes, the girls and grands are at the top of our list of consideration and have been from the very beginning of this relationship. You will understand more as I write this story.

You will wipe a tear, smile, and know that there is a God who loves us and cares for us and never fails.

Thank you for your loving concern for my daughters, grands, and me.

At 10:03 PM, Blogger Nana Trish is Living the Dream said...

I am happy for you and don't worry about trying to count out spaces of time. If the Lord sends you someone, then who are we to question? I certainly don't think you should turn down a relationship and say,"I must wait X amount of time." People that love you want you to be happy. Kristy wanted you to go forward and I am thrilled for you and look forward to hearing all about it.My mother took care of my daddy for two years in cancer and I wish she could have found someone else to share her life with later. I,for one, say, "You go Milton!"

At 12:39 AM, Blogger DayleShockley said...

When God created man, he said it wasn't good for man to be alone, and so he made woman. Kristy knew you better than anyone in the world, and she knew you would need someone in your life, and she was OK with that. As you said, she pushed for that, even when it made you uncomfortable to talk about it.

I'm very happy for you, Milton, and I believe Kristy would be pleased that you are moving forward. That is what she wanted you to do.

At 7:37 AM, Blogger Pam Meyers said...

Milton, I have been there. Not as the widowed spouse but the daughter of one.

My dad "took up" with a childhood sweetheart six months after Mom passed. I was so uncomfortable and hurt. Couldn't understand. Wasn't he still grieving? Then someone set me straight. He'd been grieving the loss of my mom for a long while.All the while she was sick and we knew it was only a matter of time. He'd been her primary caregiver. When she died it was three days before Christmas and he was heartbroken.

It will likely be difficult for your girls to see you with another at your side as it was for me. But I did catch up emotionally. My dad and stepmom were 71 when they married and they had 12 good years together. The first few months of their relationship were hard on me but in the end I saw how good it was for Dad and for me, and his remarrying so fast was only a testament to the strength of my parents' marriage.

I wish you all of God's blessing as you explore and experience this new relationship.

At 8:54 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have heard that men who had fantastic, loving relationships with their wives tend to marry sooner than other men upon being widowed (and I've seen that happen in real men and women). So your story does not surprise me much, and I look forward to reading how it all panned out.

At 10:57 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everyone prayed for your wife, you and your children through this time, but really now, have you asked your kids? I do NOT know a kid that wants to know,read about, or have the world know about their dad's new love story on line - or hear about it from their friends.

And what is God's calling/anointing on YOUR life? Is it really this?

Honesty from a friend is better than lies.
a friend


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