Tuesday, November 04, 2008


Milton, here for Kristy:

I am progressing through  my grieving process.

I am not too big to cry and wipe my tears.

I am accepting the reality of Kristy's passing.

I am sure she is well in His presence.

I am trusting in His understanding and faithful care.

I am a widower. 

I am a single man. 

I am aware of Kristy's desire for me to move forward in life.

I am aware that His grace reaches out to me every day.

I am not alone.

I am not defeated.

I am able to do all things through Christ.

I am not going to hurt forever.

I am going to have a whole and well life.

I am blessed with many friends and loved ones who believe in me.

I am open to all of His will and plans for my life.

I am confident that He will complete His full purposes for me.

I am willing to wait, trust, and obey His purpose and plans.

I am sure all will be well.

I am grateful.


At 8:58 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My mother died unexpectedly on September 9 of this year. Last year on August 29 her loving husband (my step father) died holding her hand. I was amazed at the process of losing a spouse and all the steps you go through. My Mom was doing well - like you had accepted the reality and we were also at rest that our sweet Joe was in Heaven with Jesus. She became ill in January of this year and after many setbacks and a long road went home to be with Jesus in September. I thought losing Joe was the hardest thing ever - till my mom died.

It has been helpful to read this blog. I too am grieving. I cry and wipe tears too. It's a process and helps to know I'm not alone.

Thank you and Kristy for sharing this. One day you'll know how many lives you ministered to every day. God Bless You!

At 12:26 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

We are with you Milton, in our prayers for you, and along with Jesus, are with you during your difficult journey through the grieving process.

Lisa and her mom.

At 2:23 PM, Blogger B. J. Brooks said...

I couldn't even begin to tell you how long the grieving process will last or how often it will take you unawares. I just know it does.

My first experience with grief was my first child who lived only 27 days, and after three more children I still grieved for the one who didn't make it.

How long? I remember it well, fifteen years and then one day while looking at my then 14 year old daughter, 9 and 5 year old sons, I was okay and I didn't grieve for her anymore.

When my husband passed away in January of 2004 after a long heart breaking illness I traveled the same road my sister traveled two years before. But with her knowledge of the process, and many friends and family I came through, and in November of 2006 when my youngest son married my grief lifted and a week later I met the man I would marry a year later.

A lot of days I prayed out loud, me who always wrote my thoughts down and read books continuously, couldn't read or write for almost 6 months. But then peace came and my mind turned to other things. I pray this peace for you Milton. Peace and Joy will overcome the grief in time.

You are truly blessed to have had such a wonderful wife, who had such an understanding of life and living beyond death. And let us not forget her knowledge of Romance.

Remember her and go forth, for there is still much to do. God most assuredly has his hand upon you.

Many Blessings
B.J. Brooks

At 3:43 PM, Anonymous Norma said...

You are right about each of these very important statements.
I can imagine Kristy telling Jesus, "Milton is going to be alright--just like I told him!!"
One day years ago I sat down and made a list of things that I know are true. I think this is what you did today. They are true and you are moving forward to more of God's purpose and plan for you.

Love you, brother.


At 7:00 PM, Blogger Eileen said...

Amen. Praying for you in San Antonio.

At 10:21 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Milton ~ This morning you were on my heart. I have not forgotten you or Kristy. But, today I said a long, heartfelt prayer for you. I, too, hope you will move on. Before my mother died she said she wanted my dad to remarry because it would be a testimony about marriage, their marriage. I am not suggesting you remarry, at least not soon. But, I am saying because your marriage to Kristy was so wonderful and fulfilling it is something I hope will happen for you in the future. For now, take solace in friendships, in your family and The Lord. I hope I haven't offended you with my remarks. Yours in love, Bonnie

At 11:34 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Milton, I was so happy to read your column today. It shows me how much healing is slowly taking place. Not that we ever get over losing one so beloved and dear, but that we are given the strength and ability by One much greater than ourselves to cope. You have made great strides, Milton. There are yet many hurdles to overcome, we all (including yourself) are aware of this. Yet, you acknowledged that "you can do all things through Christ who gives you strength!" You acknowledged that you are a widower, and that is a huge dose to swallow. I can vividly see God's Hand upon your head. He is leading you and guiding you into places of which you're unaware. ----- And vivid within my memory still is the night that I shared with you about the "movie" - about the lives of you and Kristy....so real...
Yes, you are blessed! I'm glad we can all be a part of the blessings in your life! You inspire us!

Blessings to you!
Cathy (TN)

At 3:05 AM, Blogger Jan said...

A few years back, I met and elderly couple. They were sitting outside our public libriry, chatting quietly and not holding hands, but touching each other's hands as they spoke.

We began to speak. They were both about to celebrate their 80th birthdays in the next few months.

I asked how long they had been married. She answered quickly that they had been married 5 years.

"My first wife died almost 20 years ago," he said. His eyes filled with tears. "I still miss her."

His wife took his hand and squeezed it. She leaned towards him. "Of course you do," she said. "How could you not? You were together all those years. You had a good marriage."

He smiled. He patter her arm. "I prayed for God to take me when he took her. Instead, after a while, he sent me you. I thank God every day for both of my wives."

God is good. Trust.

Peace, Milton, and God bless!
Jan in Pittsburgh


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