Tuesday, December 16, 2008


It is going to be OK. Kristy said that to me over and over.  There are lots of unanswered questions in this story, but who wants to read a boring love story? Great stories are stories with all the boring parts taken out.   

The one comment from the potential in-law was from a son-in-law. It was the loving protective son-in-law of my new love. He dearly loves his mother-in-law and just had to have a protective say. Don't you wish you had a son-in-law who would stand up as strongly for you even if it was straight forward.  I assure you they are wonderful, fine people.  I have known my loves daughter all her life, and she is as sweet and kind as her mother. This love story will bear all that out.

Writing this story slowly gives room for a lot of loose ends and questions. Trust me. Kristy knew. She said it. Kristy said, "Everything is going to be OK." 

I will try to write faster, but the story will have to come out as it comes out. Does that make any sense? What do they say about love? It is deaf, dumb, and blind. You are going to be amazed at what I am going to write.....just wait.

Just a brief question. Don't you think that my new love has to be a very mature and wonderfully sweet lady to read this story and the comments written and still have a cute smile on her face?

My new love is one amazing lady--a great lady!


At 5:51 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

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At 6:54 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am sure that your new love is wonderful and will be wonderful in ministry with you. I do have to agree that the family member was harsh. There's a big difference between protecting someone and being harsh and judgmental to others, especially considering that no one said anything about the new love. Just remarks about waiting and taking time.

At 7:06 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I didn't think the son-in-law's comment was harsh at all. And if your loved one was being discussed (indirectly, yes, but she was being discussed), I would hope you would protect her, too.

Do you think we could let this go now?


At 7:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

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At 8:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Okay, everybody. We have been emotionally involved with this family to the point that we feel like we are are part of their family. I think we all mean well. We have beaten this horse almost to death. Knowing Milton and the great heritage of Christianity he comes from, we can trust that he will know God's timing for all things. Let's all just read subsequent pages and see the whole picture. If God can put it together, God can sustain it each step of the way. I truly think that we all wish you well Milton and your new love well. Proverbs says a seeing eye and a hearing ear - both are from the Lord. May you and your new love have keeness of hearing and seeing for all that lies ahead.


Barbara Benton

At 9:38 PM, Blogger Nana Trish is Living the Dream said...

Milton, I am happy for you and your new love. I have read this blog for over a year and I appreciate the honesty. You have a wonderful family that seems very supportive and loving. I trust your judgement and I am anxious to see a picture of your love and hear about happy, sweet, fun things. I pray you have a blessed Christmas. I'm anxious to read the next chapter......

At 9:58 PM, Anonymous Gayle said...

Please pardon the redundancy, Milton, but as I said in my last comment, you're a brave man. A brave man, indeed.

I can't imagine flinging my raw heart into cyberspace for all the world to see and take aim.

But...as my sister said earlier today: Go, Milton. If any of the comments get under your skin, a couple of Twinkies ought to do the trick.

God bless. Waiting impatiently for the rest of the story.

At 10:06 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


When I first read that you have a new love, the first thought that came to mind was "What about Kristy? How could he move on so quickly?"

Then I thought about the months where you watched her slipping slowly away from you. I realized you actually had much time to prepare to move on. I think sometimes during a long illness your grief process begins even before your loved one is gone.

Kristy was an amazing woman to have picked out someone for you - someone who she knew you could love. And who couldn't love a man like you?

I am thankful that you have accountability partners to help guide you through this new journey. I am also thankful both your families seem to support this new relationship. As long as this is God's will, it doesn't matter if you've known each other 6 months or 16 years. My parents met in March and married in September. This year they celebrated their 50th anniversary.

My thoughts on love, once you really loved someone, you will always love them. You can love another, but it won't be the same love. It can be a strong and beautiful love, but neither love is diminished because of the other.

Time is not as important as communication and love.

I am happy for you. You and your family are in my prayers in this new transition in your lives.

Beth Szabo


At 12:12 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh how absolutely beautifully were those words by Beth Szabo....
"once you really loved someone, you will always love them. You can love another, but it won't be the same love. It can be a strong and beautiful love, but neither love is diminished because of the other..." All I have to say is,
That was powerful, Beth....

At 1:21 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amen, Beth!
This ought to be needlepointed.

A second love does not replace.
It refreshes by God's grace.

At 6:28 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amen to Barbara B. & Beth's comments....Now let's get in the spirit of the new love story...I cant wait to see how God has put it all together...when He is in it......It is right....
Bless you Milton, Bless your new love and your daughters and grands as well...

At 7:01 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

No one has the right to be harsh, rude or question your annointing or relationship with God. That being said, this is open for the world and of course you will hear about public opinion when it is this type of format. It is your business and yours alone, but I think I might can shed a little light on what a lot of people might be feeling.

I have read, wept, and prayed over your family for almost a year now by reading this blog site and I have to admit I felt crushed in you finding love so quickly. I have pondered this a few days now and I think what many are feeling is this....We live in such a world that you do not find such a special love story that takes your breath away and gives you hope for the future. I have seen it twice in my life and their kind of love could not allow them to move to a new love in such a brief time, even with their spouses permission. I have thought about this since reading of your new lady and yesterday kind of summed it up for me. I went to work and a co-worker was crying, I tried to encourage her and her story was this... "My mother is already dating again so soon after my daddy's death... I tried to tell my mother that she could move on and find a new love but, we, the daughters need to get through the first holiday season without him...get through my first birthday without him... My friend is 40, her dad passed away 10 months ago."

You spoke highly of your love's son-in-law's protective words; then why delete them?? I would think it would be o.k. to leave it since you have such wonderful feelings about the tone of the comment...This can be confusing to readers.

I am not judging you, there is no sin in moving on...no timeline...you know your heart...God knows your heart and that is ALL that matters...I was just wanting to express what a lot of readers might be feeling...Still, no one should leave harsh and mean comments...that is wrong.

God bless you all

At 7:57 AM, Blogger Pam Meyers said...

The comment made by the protective sil was apparently removed from the post as I read it several times and couldn't find it. No matter. During my dad's blooming courtship with my stepmom which started six months after mom's passing I was very protective--protective of my mom who wasn't there to defend herself. I said some very harsh things to my dad. He was acting like a teenager in my opinion and not at all like the grieving widower I expected him to be for a length of time I hadn't yet determined. Unlike Kristy, my mom hadn't ever had that talk with me that she expected Dad to find happiness with another lady after she was gone. Maybe that would have helped.

I understand the sil's protectiveness, but it doesn't mean it was appropriate no matter what he said.

No matter what, God is in control and God blesses.

Hang in there, Milton, as I know you are doing. It does get better.


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